——写给在“教育焦虑”中迷失的基督徒父母
文 / HuSir

　　亲爱的弟兄姊妹，你是否每天忙着为孩子安排补习、练琴、考试，却忽略了他（她）是否懂得祷告？你是否在为孩子升学规划奔波，却从未引导他认识神在他生命中的旨意？

　　当我们把孩子从教会带到各种“补课班”时，我们真的相信“敬畏耶和华是智慧的开端”吗？（箴言9:10）还是我们已经被这个国家的教育模式绑架，把孩子当成“工具人”，而不是主的儿女？

　　如果我们不从信仰角度重新定义“教育”，我们很可能亲手培养出一个精致自私、灵里干涸、内心迷茫却“成绩优异”的孩子。当然，要求孩子做到的这一切前提是作为父母自己需要真切的活出被神带领的工作和家庭生活，乃至夫妻关系。

一、今天的教育体系：只关心“分数的头脑”，不塑造“敬虔的心灵”

　　中国的学校教育强调竞争、排名、结果导向。这并非全然错误，但它有一个致命的缺陷：它不关心灵魂的归属，也不培养孩子对神的敬畏。结果是：

• 孩子一遇到失败就崩溃：因为他们的价值感从未建立在神的爱里；
• 孩子内心充满恐惧、比较和倦怠：因为他们从小就被要求“赢”，而不是被教导“信靠”；
• 孩子不懂爱、不愿付出、害怕承担责任：因为他们从未在真理中成长，只在效率中前进。

　　如今很多学校里接连发生的有关孩子与老师、同学关系不当引发的悲剧，原因大多在于父母放任和忽略了孩子灵魂的塑造。在学习方面，父母如果只是跟风的“鸡娃”、一味盲从“高考至上”，却没有在家中建立祷告祭坛、没有把主耶稣介绍给他们，我们就不是在“栽培生命”，而是在“编程机器人”。

二、圣经对孩子教育的核心从来不是“成功”，而是“属灵传承”

　　申命记6章清清楚楚地告诉我们，父母教育孩子的第一责任，是把神的话刻在他们心里：

“你要殷勤教训你的儿女，无论你坐在家里，行在路上，躺下，起来，都要谈论。”（申命记6:7）

　　圣经中从来没有鼓励父母“逼孩子成功”，却处处强调“栽种信仰”。属灵的教育不是一门课，而是一种生命的流动，是你用真实敬虔的生活影响孩子的灵魂：

　　你读经祷告，孩子才能感受到神是真的；
　　你面对困难选择信靠，孩子才能知道信仰是有力量的；

　　你在工作中靠主自强不息，孩子才知道学习是发自他内心的需求；
　　你在家庭中尊主为大，孩子才不会把分数当成偶像，不会把高考高分当作成功，不会把有一个大学文凭当作成功……

三、孩子真正需要的是信仰的根，而不是成功的壳

　　许多父母以为“孩子有好学校、有好职业、有稳定收入”就足够了，想方设法为孩子谋划学习之路、工作之路、婚姻之路……，唯独忘记了信仰之路。说到家，连自己的工作、婚姻、家庭生活都没有践行出耶稣基督的样式，凭什么就相信自己‘半生不熟’的信仰生活可以让孩子视作珍宝？弟兄姐妹们，凭借作为父母的小半生经历，难道还不明白，真正支撑一个人在生活的风暴中站立不倒的，从来不是学历和分数，而是坚定的信仰。

• 当失恋、压力、孤独袭来时，能否有信心说“主啊，我需要你”？
• 当诱惑、低谷、患病降临时，是否能祷告：“主啊，我仍信靠你”？

　　这些能力不是补习班教出来的，也不是高考决定的，而是你在孩子小时候有没有带他亲近神、教他祷告、陪他一起经历主。

　　孩子会长大，会离开你，但如果他心里有主，他在哪儿都有归属；如果他没有主，他在哪里都在流浪。

四、信仰教育，不是“再加一课”，而是“换一个中心”

　　亲爱的父母，别再把“主日聚会”“教会活动”当成可有可无的选项——它们不是孩子学习之外的“额外负担”，而是他灵魂的生命线。

　　你不需要让孩子成为什么“神学院预备生”，但你需要教他认识神是谁，怎样祷告，怎样读经，怎样活在光中。

　　请不要说：“他以后长大自己会选的。”
　　你不教他，世界一定会教；你不带他去教会，撒但会带他进抖音、网游、短视频、色情、拜金。

　　属灵的争战，从来都是“现在”，不是“将来”。

五、怎样开始为孩子建立信仰教育？

　　这不是一套教材，而是一种生活方式：

1. 在家中设立祷告祭坛：每天哪怕5分钟，一起读经、祷告；
2. 鼓励孩子在生活中依靠神：遇到考试、矛盾、痛苦，引导他祷告而不是只靠你；
3. 用你生命的真实见证感染他：你不是完美父母，但你愿意悔改、信靠神；
4. 看重教会群体的栽培：不要把主日“让步”给兴趣班、比赛、加班；
5. 放下成绩至上的偶像：你不是不关注分数，但你更关注灵魂；
6. 为孩子每天祝福祷告：他不只是你的孩子，是神托付的灵魂。

结语：别让你的孩子赢了世界，却丢了永恒

耶稣说：“人若赚得全世界，赔上自己的生命，有什么益处呢？”（马太福音16:26）

　　你可以把孩子送进最好的学校，却不能保证他走进天国；
　　你可以给他最好的资源，却不能代替他面向永恒。

　　请记住，孩子是主赐的产业，不是你实现愿望的工具。
　　我们终有一天要站在主面前，为我们怎样教养孩子交账。
　　愿你能说：“主啊，我尽力将他们带到你面前。”

　　愿我们勇敢从“分数中心”转向“基督中心”，
　　因为孩子真正的成功，是信靠耶稣，活在真理中。

　　阿们。

Your Child Was Born to Glorify God, Not Merely to Pass Exams

— A Letter to Christian Parents Lost in “Educational Anxiety”
By HuSir

Dear brothers and sisters,

Are you busy each day arranging tutoring, music lessons, and tests for your child, yet ignoring whether he or she knows how to pray? Are you rushing to map out an academic future, yet never guiding your child to seek God’s purpose for his or her life?

When we shuttle children from church to endless “cram classes,” do we still believe “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom” (Proverbs 9:10, NKJV)? Or have we already been captured by a national school system that turns our children into tools instead of sons and daughters of the Lord?

Unless we redefine education from a faith perspective, we may raise a child who is exquisitely self-centered, spiritually parched, and inwardly lost—yet “top of the class.” Remember: whatever we ask of our children presupposes that we ourselves live out God’s leading in work, family, and marriage.

I. Today’s Education System: All About “Scoring Minds,” Not About “God-Fearing Hearts”

China’s schools prize competition, rankings, and outcomes. That is not wholly evil, but it carries a fatal flaw: it cares nothing for the soul’s allegiance nor for a child’s reverence of God. The results are:

• Children collapse at failure because their worth was never rooted in God’s love;
• Children live in fear, comparison, and exhaustion because they were trained to “win,” not taught to “trust”;
• Children neither love, serve, nor shoulder responsibility because they grew up in efficiency, not in truth.

Headlines about tragic conflicts between students and teachers often trace back to parents who ignore the shaping of the soul. If we merely join the “tiger-parent race” and worship the college-entrance exam, without erecting a family altar of prayer or introducing Jesus to our kids, we are not “cultivating life”—we are coding robots.

II. The Bible’s Goal for Children Is Never “Success” but “Spiritual Heritage”

Deuteronomy 6 states the parent’s first calling—to engrave God’s word on a child’s heart:

“You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.” (Deuteronomy 6:7, NKJV)

Scripture never tells parents to force success; it repeatedly commands us to plant faith. Spiritual education is not a class; it is the current of life in which your authentic godliness shapes your child’s soul.

• You read Scripture and pray—your child senses God is real.
• You trust God amid hardship—your child learns faith has power.
• You work with God-given diligence—your child sees study as an inner calling.
• You honor Christ at home—your child will not idolize grades, scores, diplomas.

III. What Your Child Truly Needs Is a Root of Faith, Not a Shell of Success

Some parents believe: “A good school, a fine job, a stable salary—then my child is set.” They devise study tracks, career tracks, marriage tracks—yet forget the track of faith. If our work, marriage, and family show little of Christ, why assume our half-hearted faith will become a treasure to our kids?

What really steadies a life in the storm is never GPA or pedigree but a steadfast faith.

• When heartbreak, pressure, or loneliness strikes, can your child say, “Lord, I need You”?
• When temptation, valleys, or sickness come, can your child pray, “Lord, I still trust You”?

No cram-school can teach that; no exam can award it. It is formed when you led your child to draw near to God, to pray, to experience the Lord—early and often. A child will grow up and leave home; if Christ dwells within, he belongs anywhere; if not, he wanders everywhere.

IV. Faith Education Is Not “One More Class”—It Is “A New Center”

Parents, stop treating Sunday worship or church life as optional. These are not extracurricular burdens; they are your child’s lifeline.

Your child need not be a future seminarian, but must know who God is, how to pray, how to read Scripture, how to walk in the light.

Never say, “He’ll choose when he’s older.”
If you do not teach, the world surely will.
If you do not lead to church, Satan will lead to TikTok, gaming, pornography, materialism.
Spiritual warfare is always now, not “someday.”

V. How to Begin Building Faith into Your Child’s Life

This is not a curriculum—it is a lifestyle:

1. Set a family altar—five minutes daily to read and pray together.
2. Guide your child to lean on God—when exams, conflicts, or pain arise, direct them to prayer, not merely to you.
3. Model genuine testimony—you are imperfect, but let them see repentance and trust.
4. Value church discipleship—do not trade Sunday for hobbies, contests, or overtime.
5. Lay down the idol of grades—academics matter, but souls matter more.
6. Bless your child in prayer daily—he is not just your child; he is a soul entrusted by God.

Don’t Let Your Child Gain the World but Lose Eternity

Jesus said,

“For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul?” (Matthew 16:26, NKJV)

You may usher your child into the finest school, yet you cannot guarantee heaven.
You may provide every resource, yet you cannot stand in for eternity.

Remember, children are God’s inheritance, not tools for our ambitions. One day each of us will stand before the Lord and account for our parenting. Oh, that you may say, “Lord, I strove to bring them to You.”

Let us turn from a score-centered life to a Christ-centered life, for true success is to trust Jesus and walk in His truth.

Amen.